Any area of your life that is not empowered will be overpowered. If you don’t fill each day with high priority actions, your day will fill up with low priorities. If you don’t clearly define, plan and pursue your highest aspirations in your career you will keep being positioned in low priority positions that are unfulfilling. – Dr John Demartini

Common Myths about Domestic Abuse

• It’s not his fault, it’s the alcohol. Alcohol is not an excuse. If your partner drinks too often and becomes violent, then there is a pre-existing anger or alcohol problem that needs to be addressed.
• Men are never the ones being abused. Men are perhaps more often and openly abused than women, but are more likely to hide it because they face ridicule or embarrassment from the rest of society.
• Your children won’t know if they never see it. Children can see and hear the signs of abuse because it happens in the home, and to people they are close to. Plus, there’s the added concern of whether or not your partner is also abusing your children. Domestic violence affects everyone close to the people involved.
• It’s because of all the terrible things his parents did to him. It is a conscious decision to harm a loved one, and no amount of past mistakes or history make domestic violence or spousal abuse right.
• You can always leave him. Not every man or woman can leave the abusive spouse, sometimes they stay because they believe they’ll be giving up too many of the good times, or because it’s easier to hide from it, or be too busy to handle it. In other instances, it’s because the abuser has made severe threats, such as “I’ll kill you/hurt you/the children if you ever leave.”
• It’s not your business; don’t start poking into another couple’s rows. If you know someone who suffers from domestic violence, you are not helping the situation by ignoring it. Reporting domestic violence the right way, if you know about it, can save lives.
• It’s because you make yourself attractive to violent men. If you are the victim of domestic abuse, it is not because you are weak, because you dress the wrong way, or because you appear vulnerable, the person who is abusing you is the one in the wrong, not you.
• It’s because you deserve it. No one deserve to be a victim at the hands of someone they love.